Happy Valentine’s Day!

Now that everyone has had their dinner and been to the movies and looked at one another with starry eyes and all that jazz… Let’s have a real quick conversation about February 14th.

Do you really care about Valentine’s Day? I can’t say I do. To me, it’s really cute when love is new and everything is super mushy between two people still getting to know one another. After a while, I don’t see the big deal. I’ve been married for 13 years to a perfectly imperfect man that I know quite well at this point. I know he loves me. I know I love him. Do we really need a specifically designated day on the calendar to tell one another that we love us? No. That’s not what works for us.

Have you ever heard of the five love languages? While going through a class a decade ago, I was introduced to the concept and completely blown away by the accuracy. Knowing your mates love language is imperative to the impact of gift giving and quality time. (I can’t tell y’all my love language. I’m cute. Next thing you know it’ll be 34 people in my inbox trying to shoot their shot…) If you click the hyperlink above it’ll give you a little more information about the love languages.

On the converse, there are some people who really do love Valentines Day and need or want the attention it affords from a person of significance. If this applies to you, make sure the person who is significant knows this long before February comes knocking. Sometimes we set ourselves up for disappointment by assuming someone will know what we want or feel without ever actually having a verbal exchange with them surrounding the subject. While getting to know someone, make it known! No uncertain terms should be used. Tell that person, ”Valentine’s Day is a big deal for me because…” That way, no gray area is left open.

Communication is key in any relationship with any person you care about. Do your best to be verbal and vocal about your wants and needs to ensure a healthy foundation and more. We want the best for ourselves and those around us and the easiest way to ensure that is to be open and honest at all times.

I hope every one of you reading this had a marvelous day that met or exceeded your expectations, wants and needs. Let’s continue to be our best selves in 2019 and beyond.

– Kelly